Can I Text My Child When They Are with My Ex?

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Can I Text My Child When They Are with My Ex?

Can I Text My Child When They Are with My Ex?After a separation, one of the things parents find most difficult is the reality of having to spend so much time away from their child. In many cases, one parent will have significantly less time with a child than their ex does. This can be challenging, especially if there is ill will between the two former partners. Your ex might be resentful of any communications you attempt to initiate during “their” time together, making what is already a difficult situation feel even worse.

Nevertheless, both parents and children have the right to maintain relationships with each other, even after a divorce. The kids’ health and needs must take precedence. An important part of that is the feeling that they are still connected to their parent, even when that parent is not physically present. Regular texting with your child can contribute positively to this sense of connection.

Texting Your Child Is Healthy

Although there are many reasons to feel that that excessive screen time can harm a child’s development, there is evidence that technology has its benefits as well. In fact, a 2019 study from the University of Kansas showed that frequent texting between a child and their non-residential parent helped keep the child resilient. These results held true whether the parents themselves were actively co-parenting or their relationship was less than harmonious.

Keeping it Positive

That being said, there are some things to keep in mind to make it more likely that your communications are contributing to your child’s life positively rather than negatively:

  • Respect your ex’s time with your kid – When you text your child, try to let it come from a place of wanting to connect with them, rather than attempting to pull them away from your ex. If you respect your ex’s time, it’ll be more likely that they will respect yours as well.
  • Don’t communicate with your ex through your child – If you have difficulty speaking to your former partner, it isn’t fair to put that burden on your child instead. Of the many reasons it’s important to establish clear lines of communication with your ex, one of the most important is that it is much healthier for your kid not to have to be a messenger.
  • Consider a texting schedule – For many children and parents, a communication routine can ease some of the emotional challenges of separation. For example, this might be an agreement always to send a “good morning” and “good night” text, in addition to wishing them good luck with any upcoming tests or sporting events. These consistent reminders may help children feel more confident that you are always there for them.
  • Let your child take the lead – Even if you do have a schedule, it’s possible that your child might not respond as often as you want them to. This can be difficult, especially at first, but in the end, it’s important that your child learns how to be comfortable away from each of their parents. Sometimes it might be easier for them to communicate less because they start missing you only when they speak to you. This might be what you want, but it might sometimes be too painful for them.

Texting is a great way of maintaining frequent contact with your absent child, but it does not replace the need for real-time communication by voice or video call, or in-person meetings. However, since these opportunities may not be as frequent as you or your child might like, texting regularly can help you both feel more connected in between those moments.

The Bottom Line

Can I Text My Child When They Are with My Ex?Even after a divorce, communication between a parent and a child is vital to the well-being of everyone involved. It is important that you and your ex are on the same page about your communications with your child. Just as you respect their time with your kid, they need to respect yours too. If you’re unsure about whether your former partner is being fair about the terms of your ability to text or speak to your child, the attorneys at Adams Law Firm can help. Call (281) 391-9237 and speak to someone who can give you advice about what is acceptable or not, and at what stage you should put your foot down.

Ultimately, every situation is unique. But since it’s so important for their well-being, finding a way of maintaining an open line of communication between you and your child should be a priority for everyone involved.


Should You Get a Prenup? Pros and Cons

prenuptial agreement (prenup) is a contract a couple signs before they get married. An increasing number of couples are signing prenups before they marry, and these contracts are even more popular when couples remarry for the second time. However, they do come with a long history. People have been signing contracts before marriages for years. So, where does the problem come in?

Let’s start with the cons. For years, people have regarded prenups with a modicum of suspicion. If you plan on staying together for the rest of your lives, why do you need a document that will protect your assets during a divorce? People have the strange idea prenups imply mistrust. In some cases, they might, but for people who want to be prepared for the future, prenups are a natural step before making a lifetime commitment. The largest con to prenups, therefore, is stigma. If you ask for a prenup, your future spouse may take it as a lack of trust or an unromantic gesture.

Other cons include a prenup requiring you to give up your right to inherit from your spouse’s estate if he or she dies, and not being entitled to claim a share of a business if you divorce (even if you contributed to its success and growth). Likewise, if you and your partner eventually divorce, the low- or non-wage earner may not be able to sustain the lifestyle to which he or she will become accustomed during the marriage.

However, there are many pros to a prenup as well. Part of the reason prenups have become more popular is they help a couple address more of the financial aspects of marriage before the wedding takes place. Discussing finances before signing any contracts can help couples negotiate financial problems before they become an issue in the future. Likewise, the document is meant to protect both individuals in the event they get divorced.

It’s impossible to predict how the future will proceed. However, you can protect the inheritance rights of your children and grandchildren with a prenup. You can also protect the business that you created before you even met your spouse. If one spouse has more debt than the other, a prenup can also protect the debt-free spouse from having to assume the financial obligations of the other. For those with larger incomes and financial assets, a prenup can also protect his or her financial interests.

If you want to discuss the potential pros and cons of a prenuptial agreement further with a skilled lawyer, call us today. Our Katy family law attorneys have more than 35 years of legal experience to offer you. The Adams Law Firm is fully prepared to provide you with excellent personalized service.

Contact us at (281) 391-9237 or fill out our online form to schedule a case consultation today.


What Are Grandparent’s Rights in Texas?

Texas is one of the strictest states for grandparents seeking visitation with their grandchild. In 2005, Texas adopted far stricter standards after the Supreme Court ruling in Troxel v. Granville. The state now holds the view that they have no place intervening in family affairs so long as the parents of the child are fit to care for them. So what does this mean for grandparents?

When Can A Grandparent Not Seek Visitation?

Before you learn what you will need to prove to request visitation, you should know if you even are able to request visitation through the court.

Grandparents may not request visitation if:

  • Both parents of their grandchild are dead or have had their parental rights terminated.
  • The child has been adopted by anyone, except for stepparent adoption, or an adoption is in progress.
  • Both parents of their grandchild have relinquished their parental rights to child services or any other organization acting as a managing conservator of the child.
  • The grandparent’s child is the grandchild’s parent who still retains their parental rights.

In these cases, you will not be able to sue for visitation rights.

In What Circumstances Can a Grandparent Seek Visitation?

In Texas, the court is reluctant to interfere with the decisions of the parents of the child, unless there is good reason to do so. The court generally holds that, provided the parents are fit to raise the child, the court should not intervene on behalf of the grandparents. There are some circumstances in which the court can be prompted to make a decision on the matter.

Grandparents may request visitation if it is in the child’s best interest and:

  • The parents of the child are divorced.
  • The parents have abused or neglected the child.
  • One parent has been incarcerated, found incompetent, or has died.
  • A court has terminated the relationship between the child and one parent.
  • The child has lived with the grandparent for at least 6 months.

What Is the Harm Standard?

In 2005, Texas adopted the Harm Standard for making decisions on child visitation for grandparents. What this means is that grandparents must demonstrate that the child will suffer considerably if they are unable to see their grandparents. This can be a very strict standard to meet, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible.

Expert testimony has been a successful tool in recent cases. Unfortunately, it can be a challenge to obtain expert testimony when the grandparent does not have access to their grandchild, school, or medical records. Your attorney may ask for a preliminary hearing, in which a professional evaluation can be requested for the purposes of expert testimony. At this hearing, your lawyer can also request relevant records to support your case.

Get Help Today! Call Our Katy Family Law Attorneys – (281) 764-6087

As a grandparent, it can be devastating to be denied the chance to participate in your grandchildren’s lived. At the Adams Law Firm, we have more than 35 years of collective experience to help you fight back. Our Katy family lawyers can help you protect your rights as a grandparent.

Start your case with a consultation. Contact our team by calling (281) 391-9237.

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